What to Do if Someone is Suicidal

24 Hour Crisis Line

Anywhere in Alameda County: 1-800-309-2131

Nationwide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE

WHAT TO DO

• The suicidal person should have someone with him or her at all times.
• Often after talking or seeking professional help, the individual may seem out of immediate danger of harming themselves. However, since suicidal thoughts often recur, the person needs sustained support for the next several days or weeks.
• Take all suicidal talk seriously. If you have any doubts about someone harming themselves, take immediate action. The old cliché "better safe than sorry" is appropriate when assessing a possible suicide attempt. Encourage the person to talk about their feelings and thoughts. Listen to the feelings behind the words.
• Evaluate the seriousness of the problem. Ask directly if the person is thinking of killing him or herself, if he or she has a plan, e.g., how it would be done and when. Asking does not cause a person to commit suicide. On the contrary, talking usually helps to relieve the burden of suicidal thoughts.
• Take action to do something tangible: arrange a meeting with a therapist, a school counselor, a trusted family member.
• Validate feelings and be supportive. With any suicide, there is ambivalence about taking one's own life. Often a suicidal person feels out of control and is relieved that someone else is making decisions.
• Do not promise total confidentiality. You may need to involve others in the solution. Let the person know that everything will be done to prevent him or her from taking their life. Seek Professional Help.

If you don't know who to call, Crisis Support Services can refer you to an appropriate mental health resource.